How does trauma occur?

Put simply, we can say that the formation of traumas is a matter of early childhood programming. As we grow up, we have learned certain patterns for dealing with different situations.

If we experience violence, injustice or our childish needs are simply not met, this leaves wounds in our souls. Children are pure, innocent creatures who, by definition, deserve nothing less than to have their needs met naturally.

We don't need to talk about the fact that this hasn't been the case for almost anyone these days. In every family there are certain construction sites and the normal, harmonious life we long for is simply not possible. We have to work, earn money, clean the apartment, attend appointments and commitments and simply don't have time to take care of our real responsibilities. How many couples today are still able to have only the man working and the woman focusing 100% on the needs of the child?

We transfer our own patterns learned in childhood to our children if we do not free ourselves from them. Due to the respective life circumstances, we also burden the little ones with new traumas, which they then pass on to their offspring. We should finally break this vicious circle to give ourselves and our children a better life

Effects - As on the inside, so on the outside

Traumas are the reasons why people don't get along on different levels, why they don't like each other or, in extreme cases, why they may even hate each other. Two people with different beliefs cannot come to a common denominator if they are both unyielding and stubborn and thus follow the patterns they learned in their childhood.

The whole thing plays out in every area of our lives. At work, in relationships, friendships and in everyday life. Where can we still find people today with whom we are really on the same wavelength and can wholeheartedly say that they are a true friend to us? These connections have become rare, unfortunately!

Especially in the search for love, there is more and more potential for conflict these days, which is often due to early childhood programming. Even if the attraction between the partners is there, more partnerships are breaking up nowadays than ever before. If you can overlook certain things at the beginning, they can become disturbing in the long run. Laziness versus diligence is just one example of a polarity which, of course, does not always have to be the decisive reason for a break-up.

What you should always bear in mind, however, is that most disharmony is created from our traumas. If I am tidy, I also expect this to a certain extent from my partner. In cases where patterns are too pronounced, this can also lead to exaggerated expectations and therefore be a relationship killer in the medium to long term.

But how can we prevent this and free ourselves from expectations?

Find, love and free yourself!

The key to harmony always lies within ourselves. We cannot expect our fellow human beings to fulfill what we have acquired through our early childhood experiences and thus burden ourselves. It is our very own duty to heal our inner child ourselves and make peace with the traumas.

Finding yourself, accepting yourself in your essence and freeing yourself from your own programming is the greatest gift you can give yourself and ultimately the world. The more people free themselves from their emotional baggage, the higher their own hot air balloon can take off and the greater their own possibilities become. In this way, we humans can find our way back to more harmony, love and happiness and make the world a better place together.

How much longer do you want to wait before you finally meet the most wonderful person in your life, namely yourself? In our society, the word "selfishness" has come to be seen as negative. Of course, it can also have negative connotations in many cases. However, this should not stop you from making yourself the absolute priority in your life. In truth, self-love is something exclusively positive if it is interpreted correctly and lived out of the motivation of self-love and not arrogance. Self-love comes automatically when we shed our mental burdens. In this case, arrogance would again be a learned, unresolved pattern.

Do something good for yourself and the world and raise the vibrations of the planet when you say goodbye to the negative ones and only shine your positive light on the earth!

The benefits of overcoming your traumas

• Self-love and self-acceptance
• Happier relationships
• Inner contentment and bliss
• Respecting your own needs and boundaries
• Clear focus on your own wishes and ideas
• Positive effect on your environment and influence on the entire planet
• Being in flow with life
• Sense of freedom